With regard to Tony, I do think a certain amount of this is culture shock.
*Driving through the desert at 90mph at night, not all that unusual. With the lights off is kind of odd, but she might have an issue with night glare and could drive just as safely in ambient moonlight and city glow. In that case you might want to slow down to 70 or 75. Is it possible Tony confused MPH and KM/h?
* Not keeping food around, eating boxed salads = dieting. Beer is dual purpose. A sandwich in every bottle
When you are single what is the point of having a full refrigerator?
* With regard to the cats, they are both just very shy. He was a stranger in the house. I have been known to shriek as well when visitors stand in the doorway for more than a few seconds or don't check the screen door is latched, because that is when Dyna has been known to saunter out. Indoor cats are indoor cats, period, dot, end of story. When they get out bad stuff happens. Dyna also likes loud music! It wasn't the noise or music, it was the strange person in the house. It takes a few days/weeks for them to adjust.
*I don't think the music was meant to torment Tony. The loud music was played from an adjoining room so she could hear it at a fair volume in her room. I know I play rock music at a fair volume whenever I am not listening to a specific radio show, even when I sleep.
*The coffee-pot incident. Seriously. Who hasn't cussed someone out and smashed something. You sweep it up, go oh well, and hopefully it wasn't something too expensive. These things happen all the time, most just don't talk about it.
*Not showering before heading out. Easy. While Tony was a "friendly stranger" the bathroom doors might not be truly lockable. Possibly there are other shyness issues of transferring down the hall all wet, no make-up etc.
*The paranoia. While we didn't hear specific examples besides the blinds, it is well justified in this day and age. What if he Tony did have a camera? Was going through documents and drawers. Or people really were peeking in the windows? (I don't allow stray phones of the new style in my house. Keep them in a bag or a pocket.) Truth is she never
fully trusted Tony.
*16 inch monitor for the computer in the bedroom. That is pretty cool, actually.
*Poppy tea. Harmless if it is not consumed too much.
*The studio. Its not really outdated at all. What did he expect? Most of that stuff is top-of-the-line equipment. Pictures have been available for years. The only thing I would recommend is getting that rack-mounted equipment off the floor.
*Two hours late to the airport. Its easy to have mess ups here, traffic jams and have wires crossed and other confusion. Perfect storm recipe for getting lost, panic attacks and other things. Would end up being almost an all day thing. I'd gladly pay a cab $150 to avoid this kind of situation and even act more stoned than I really was just to make this an easy out. She did have the bearings to call the cab for him. She couldn't have been that stoned
*If someone trimmed their nails laying on your floor would you have them back? Yuck!! Of course you would assign them cleaning tasks as punishment so hopefully they would
not return!
*The outfit at the airport. Its Las Vegas. As long as its not indecent, who cares? All these prim and proper people, geez.
In short, nothing too shocking to me at all. She might not be the best house hostess, namely because she doesn't get many guests even in years past.