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Re: Dear Ellgab
« Reply #30 on: July 18, 2018, 08:16:21 PM »
Then you have hit the jackpot good sir!  There is no wrong answer.  You can't lose.

No doubts about that.  An impartial observer would say that there was no way that dude deserves that awesome lady.


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Re: Dear Ellgab
« Reply #31 on: July 18, 2018, 08:41:10 PM »
Dear Ellgab,

I have a close personal friend (she has my phone number) that is having a tough time with her online radio show.   I want to do everything I can to help her, but sometimes she takes my ideas as a threat or possible attempt replace her.  She is well respected and has a loving fan base.  How do I make it clear I am on her side and have her best interests at heart?

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Re: Dear Ellgab
« Reply #32 on: July 18, 2018, 08:47:39 PM »
Dear Ellgab,

I have a close personal friend (she has my phone number) that is having a tough time with her online radio show.   I want to do everything I can to help her, but sometimes she takes my ideas as a threat or possible attempt replace her.  She is well respected and has a loving fan base.  How do I make it clear I am on her side and have her best interests at heart?

I'm glad it is someone other than me asking for advice.  That is a tough one.  I think you might send your friend a Snow White outfit and a carton of Kools.  I think that might help put her more at ease with your ideas.

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Re: Dear Ellgab
« Reply #33 on: July 18, 2018, 10:56:16 PM »
Are roses her favorite flower?  If not, you might win a few brownie points by going with a flower that she likes more.
Oh sure, like orchids, orange blossom, gardenia, magnolia, or imports from the Middle East, Africa, or Asia  ::).  Or home grown, like lilacs.

I wouldn't recommend yellow roses in romance.  Yellow reminds some people of bile.  If she really likes yellow, it's better to give her a gift card and let her purchase them, to avoid bad luck in romance.

Unlike a bunch of daffodils or tulips, a single nested, wrapped red rose with a generous stem brings to mind something that stands tall, firm, and hot.  Let alone 3, 6, 12 or more...

Why not shake it up.  Out here, it doesn't cost extra to ask the designer in back to pair your wife's favorite flower with some roses and filler (baby's breath, greens).  Daffodils go with white, coral or peach roses.  Sunset colored tulips with red roses, or sunset colored roses (an exception to the "no orange" rule).  Lavender tulips with lavendar roses.  Pink roses with pink gerbera daisies.  Lavendar freesia with lavendar roses.  A few of each could be touching.  Although still not as hot as roses.

It might not matter to some, but women tend to be expected to pay for disposible adornment.  An arrangement of 3 roses doesn't cost more than one pair of pantyhose and might last longer.  An arrangement of 6 roses doesn't cost more than hair highlights.  A dozen roses do not cost more than a good bra (and even the good ones fall apart, especially if dried in the dryer even in a special container).  So, from a female point of view, roses shouldn't be out of the question from men.  After all, women are expected to finance a lot of disposible adornment like nail polish/manicures, hairdos, hairspray/mousse, facial primer, cosmetics, feminine hygeine products (every month for 30-40 years), barettes, nylons, and heels (the little heel tips wear down).  in contrast, as far as I know, men's adornment is durable, like ties, hankies and flat-soled shoes...  This is just for information, I'm not making determinations or drawing conclusions.  So, in theory, the expense of roses could be justified.

When a woman has a beautiful rose, as it starts to wilt, she can hang it upside down in a brown bag to preserve it forever.  A rose blossom cared for in a dark glass container can retain its shape and scent for twenty years or more.  Even its color stays for a while.  She can also use the petals for her bath after they dry, or put them in a sachet to fragrance a drawer.  These sensory experiences just don't happen with most other flowers.

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Re: Dear Ellgab
« Reply #34 on: July 18, 2018, 11:26:32 PM »
Dear Ellgab,

It won't be long and Mrs. Walks_At_Night and I will have our 25th wedding anniversary.   I've got most of the stuff figured
out but I'm stuck on a color for the roses.   Red, White, Pink or Yellow?   What say you Ellbag?   This Rose Color Meaning Page did not help me.

Thanks in advance,

WAN

Dear "Confused on my 25th";

25th anniversary?  Wow, that is great.  What a great opportunity to show her the depth of your feelings and thank her for her commitment over the last decades.

On the other hand, roses can get very expensive.  Do you have roses in your garden?  Do your nieghbours have roses growing in theirs (roses look best when harvested at 2:00 AM.)  If not, there should be some public gardens just a short bus ride away where roses grow tended by caring professionals.  This is a great time of year to procure them.

Do not be so concerned with the colour- simply take what is at hand from any of the sources listed above.  Be sure to harvest  exactly 25 roses in order to demonstrate your thoughtfulness on this special occasion.


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Re: Dear Ellgab
« Reply #35 on: July 18, 2018, 11:37:05 PM »
Dear Ellgab,

I have a close personal friend (she has my phone number) that is having a tough time with her online radio show.   I want to do everything I can to help her, but sometimes she takes my ideas as a threat or possible attempt replace her.  She is well respected and has a loving fan base.  How do I make it clear I am on her side and have her best interests at heart?

Dear "helpful friend";

Endear yourself to her fanbase on social media.  If she has a spare room or a shed out back, you should move in and begin broadcasting.  She can mentor you (and in doing so, feel as though she is still involved with the show.)  She can also continue to communicate directly with her fans and let them know that she "may drop in and host the show any night" and that they should "stay tuned" (and more importantly, "stay subscribed.")

If at all possible, you should get romantically involved with her to build trust and demonstrate that you are only there to help.

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Re: Dear Ellgab
« Reply #36 on: July 19, 2018, 07:36:34 PM »
Thanks to @14 and @WOTR for your thoughts on this matter.   Whatever I go with, there will definitely be 25 of 'em

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Re: Dear Ellgab
« Reply #37 on: July 20, 2018, 01:12:47 PM »
Thanks to @14 and @WOTR for your thoughts on this matter.   Whatever I go with, there will definitely be 25 of 'em
Congatulations on your anniversary.  Corsage?