One of the rare occasions! - getting to this point has helped me get my head around it all really, not all the conclusions I came to were pleasant, but all valid. It feels like a weight is off me since this afternoon. The rest will be dealt with as and when. I’m not mad at the person involved, he had no idea she would do what she did, which was very shitty.
She didn't know who did it. You are her biggest threat, so she took advantage of it.
There isn't a way for most to know the intent of caller #1 unless he has said what that was to whoever they may or may not have spoken to about it. IMO no matter what the intent, it was the right thing to do based on what I was hearing. That woman has created a horrible situation where even if the right thing is done on her behalf, people now may not do it because she is too unstable to understand what is going on and might release her merry band of maniacs. She is doing an excellent job of making certain she remains unchallenged. She is, however, shortsighted because someday she might need help from someone who won't bother because of what we see here. She does not know the difference between going too far in her "poor poor me" game and conveying a desperate need for urgent assistance.
Can't recall who was saying a while back something along the lines that if she killed herself we would all feel terrible. Well, as time goes on I think that is less and less true. Not only would you be risking yourself and your family by alerting authorities but you might also bring big problems to other innocent people.
DH, I am very happy to hear you are feeling some relief.