The more the likes of Hallie and Fluffykins circle around and flap their lips and call the troops to order the more worried they are.
Fluffy smells blood in the water, Hallie fears the end of the ride and the end of her power in the community (because there will be no community). This is exactly how they got when she went AWOL from LNM first time around. This time the fans are less sheeplike.
I dropped a msg to Katie last night, she says she is ok. Obviously that is a sliding scale but I will keep in touch with her. In my conversations with her I always gave her the in to talk to me about anything she needed to. I think she was never in a position to be able to. After seeing my sister in the hospital with a partially missing ear and a very bad compound fracture of the leg (15 years on she is still having surgery to fix it) after being thrown down a flight of stairs by her partner I do understand the plight of those who are in abusive relationships and sometimes softly softly is the only way to deal with it, and wait for the opportunity to catch them in the act. There is a multitude of right things to do and wrong things to do in these situations and every situation is unique.
Yeah. No one tells women to be covert about it, but that really is the best way. A woman is only asking for trouble if she confides in the abuser than she is leaving him. Best to take covert steps to gain independence, organize bug-out bags and phone lists covertly. Rather than talk about it, it is better to just go, cut your losses, get safe, watch your back, and have a support network.
Although a restraining order can be a big plus, too. Actual proof is not needed, only documentation of harm. But again, I wouldn't tell the guy the plans to get an order.
"Catching someone in the act is easier nowadays with cell phone video. There is no shame in fleeing without prosecution, too, though.
