Kolby’s name is definitely out there if you take the time to look through her Facebook posts. I am not about to doxx her by posting it here, dead or alive.
Confirmation was given by a family member who was not Cody or Diana. Cody has written a fair few posts on his time travelling with Kolby and I haven’t posted them here because they are quite shocking. Also I was waiting for @HopHey to post the skinny as she is all up in Cody’s messenger from what I can tell from Facebook 
Thanks. Facebook is an occasional necessary evil that I truly do try to avoid. When I quit it for mostly good a few years ago, my phone started ringing a lot more. That got even more annoying... Hehehe.
I know you've answered my question before but, from my very limited perspective, Cody was the sole source...
So, her real last name is out there somewhere... Maybe someday, when I'm confined to doing nothing, I'll go down that raven hole (or whatever her spirit animal is).
As I would suspect that this might have been intentional, I hope that no one else was hurt and that she was kind enough to leave the cat with someone who would truly care for her. It sounds like all of her other "pets" were merely pawns in her realm of control.
That final message with miller picture frames suicide as a possibility without being direct about it.
I hope that Cody and Diana really get their shit together and have good lives. Then, years from now, they can tell Lilith about her crazy grandmother from the perspective of normalcy.