or Darling??
YES, I do say that to female waitstaff. And I'd say it to you in person.
I know for a fact that I used it no less than twice this past Friday at the oyster bar. Truth be known I only say it when
The She isn't at the table. On Fridays she takes alot of work calls where she'll step outside and this allows me to call da' bitches whatever I want! - within reason, I mean, I still want my drink so I can't be too prickish.

How ya'
lick that,
TOOTS!
@PolkaDot